Cultured in Media

As a young girl, I never understood why grown women had so many standards when dating. I used to think once an attraction was mutual, everything else could be worked out. I remember watching a show with the singer, Chili, from the legendary Hip-Hop group, TLC, and hearing her talk about what she wants in a man. At the time, I thought she was crazy. I thought, "no man is going to want to be with a woman who requires too much." That was the young me. Now as a mature woman, I realize that Chilli wasn't not asking for too much. She knew what she wanted. She knew what she would and wouldn't accept. For that, she is a strong woman with standards. Sure she could have any guy she wants, but why settle for what you feel you deserve? I've dated, and I gave in to situations I should have left alone. It's a learning experience until you reach a point where you realize your worth. And when you realize your worth, you seek someone who adds on to that growth, instead...

I ask this question because one day, I will have my own family. When that day comes, or even with my nieces and nephews, I will have to handle it somehow. So, with that being said, as an adult, who did not date until I was 19, have to say that I will I had experimented  little sooner than that but in a way, I am glad I waited that long. Originally, I never that dating would be so difficult. I thought it was just about two people just saying "I love you," or going on dates, but I soon learned it is muuuch more to it than that.  Personally, I will allow my child to have what I call "friendships" at the age of fifteen. I saw friendships because that is exactly what they will remain, "friends" until they understand that "going together" is not as easy as it sounds or looks. They can not start dating until the age of 17, which is the age of consent for sex in most states. I decided on dating at 17 due to the fact they have to get out there and kn...