Cultured in Media

As a young girl, I never understood why grown women had so many standards when dating. I used to think once an attraction was mutual, everything else could be worked out. I remember watching a show with the singer, Chili, from the legendary Hip-Hop group, TLC, and hearing her talk about what she wants in a man. At the time, I thought she was crazy. I thought, "no man is going to want to be with a woman who requires too much." That was the young me. Now as a mature woman, I realize that Chilli wasn't not asking for too much. She knew what she wanted. She knew what she would and wouldn't accept. For that, she is a strong woman with standards. Sure she could have any guy she wants, but why settle for what you feel you deserve? I've dated, and I gave in to situations I should have left alone. It's a learning experience until you reach a point where you realize your worth. And when you realize your worth, you seek someone who adds on to that growth, instead...

Time flys by when you are living life right? Remember the popular girl-group, TLC, with the spunky members Chili, T-Boz, and the deceased Left Eye? Well remember T-Boz with the raspy voice that captured everyone's attention? Also remember when T-Boz became pregnant with her then boyfriend, rapper Mack-10? Well now that you got the jist of it and a run-down in questions, take a look at how much T-Boz and Mack-10's baby girl Chase Rolison has grown. Chase is now 15 years old. Now I really feel old.

DO WE REALLY HATE OURSELVES INSIDE? GOOD HAIR VS BAD HAIR As black women, nothing is more personal than our relationship with our hair. Ever since I was a child, I had a love-hate relationship with my hair that only another black woman would be able to understand. In a sense, our hair is our identity. We create it to fit our style. So how does this tie in with having good hair versus bad hair?  I know most of you have seen the film Good Hair by Chris Rock; in my opinion, the film kind of hit a nerve with me. As a black woman, I love my hair, flaws and all. Just like every other race. We have good hair days and then there are bad hair days. I just thought he focused too much on black women not accepting the fact that they can never really have that “good hair.” My assumption could be incorrect but that is the way I perceived it. Back in the day, it was thought that if you had straight or wavy hair, you we...