Cultured in Media

As a young girl, I never understood why grown women had so many standards when dating. I used to think once an attraction was mutual, everything else could be worked out. I remember watching a show with the singer, Chili, from the legendary Hip-Hop group, TLC, and hearing her talk about what she wants in a man. At the time, I thought she was crazy. I thought, "no man is going to want to be with a woman who requires too much." That was the young me. Now as a mature woman, I realize that Chilli wasn't not asking for too much. She knew what she wanted. She knew what she would and wouldn't accept. For that, she is a strong woman with standards. Sure she could have any guy she wants, but why settle for what you feel you deserve? I've dated, and I gave in to situations I should have left alone. It's a learning experience until you reach a point where you realize your worth. And when you realize your worth, you seek someone who adds on to that growth, instead...

I see that last year's post on relationship goals has gained a lot of views. With the stats, I decided to give you something REAL in what relationship goals should look like. In no way, shape, or form, am I an expert in relationships. I just live by the old saying, "You live and you learn." Again, I say I am not an expert, but I am experienced in relationships. In order for a relationship to work, you must have the following. An understanding: Do not enter a relationship without knowing what the other one expects out of it. You both must have an understanding of the other's desires. Whether it is a casual relationship, a sexual relationship, or just dating until the mood turns red. Understand what each other's objectives are. That way, before you get too involved, you already know where it is headed so you can either escape, or choose to stay. Commitment: Commit to the understanding. If the relationship is not supposed to be anything serious and just a s...

What is up with all of the new "goals" for relationships? Have you saw them on Instagram and Facebook? Like is there no more wanting to date, marry, build a life together, be successful, and have children? And even it if is not the previously mentioned, don't you just want someone who is there for you, loyal, and respects whatever decisions you make, someone who believes in God at least? Why is this coming up as a topic? Because I am tired of seeing "relationship goals" that should be labeled "relationship fails." Well not all of them are bad. Take a look below at some of the "goals" I found via Instagram. In my world, I prefer more like the #goals below.