As a young girl, I never understood why grown women had so many standards when dating. I used to think once an attraction was mutual, everything else could be worked out. I remember watching a show with the singer, Chili, from the legendary Hip-Hop group, TLC, and hearing her talk about what she wants in a man. At the time, I thought she was crazy. I thought, "no man is going to want to be with a woman who requires too much." That was the young me. Now as a mature woman, I realize that Chilli wasn't not asking for too much. She knew what she wanted. She knew what she would and wouldn't accept. For that, she is a strong woman with standards. Sure she could have any guy she wants, but why settle for what you feel you deserve? I've dated, and I gave in to situations I should have left alone. It's a learning experience until you reach a point where you realize your worth. And when you realize your worth, you seek someone who adds on to that growth, instead